1. They're very late. 迟到很长时间
Issues with traffic or public transportation are inevitable for most people, so tardiness isn't always a red flag.
But if your date is more than a few minutes late — and doesn't seem to care that you've been waiting for a lengthy period of time — consider that a first strike.
2. They're too pushy. 太猴急
Your date may try to convince you that they deserve to be invited back to your place because they bought you a drink or spent some time with you.
"If they're insisting on inviting you to their place, or pushing to go over to yours, that's a bad sign," Rori Sassoon, founder of Platinum Poire matchmaking service, told INSIDER. "They don't need to know where you live right now."
婚恋机构Platinum Poire 创始人罗瑞·萨孙告诉Insider网站说：“如果对方坚持要邀请你去他家，或者执意要去你家，这就不妙了。初次约会的对象不需要知道你住在哪儿。”
3. They get too personal too fast. 太早吐露心声
There's nothing wrong with opening up to someone new, but it shouldn't all come out at once.
"When people start telling you stuff that is really personal really quickly, it displays a kind of neediness and clinginess that shows they're just going to use you as a vehicle for unloading for the relationship," Sassoon said. "It's all about them, they don't ask a question, they don't really care, they just want to vomit about their whole entire life."
Basically, if a first date feels like a therapy session — one in which you have unwittingly become the therapist — get out ASAP.
4. They make the date feel like a job interview. 把相亲搞得像求职面试
On the other hand, you don't want the date to feel like a job interview.
You don't automatically need to eliminate a potential partner if they're overly inquisitive — some people might ask a lot of questions when they get nervous, or they could genuinely be fascinated by you — but it's worth asking them some questions too, just to see if they open up about themselves or just go back to questioning you.
5. They can't seem to plan anything. 没有任何计划
If they refuse to take accountability for any part of a date — a time to meet, a bar to get drinks, or even what drinks you get — that's not a great sign, either.
6. They're hot and cold. 情绪善变
Be wary of a person who shows up to a first date and seems happy one moment and decidedly not the next — and for no apparent reason.
Being moody doesn't mean someone is a bad person. But if their behavior during an hour-long date is sporadic enough to make you feel on edge, they may not be ready for a relationship.
There are a number of things that might explain their behavior — like a fresh breakup or trouble at work — but trying to pursue a relationship with them could be a thankless task for you.
7. They're too confrontational. 咄咄逼人
When you go on a date, it's possible that politics, religion, and other taboo topics may come up. But if a healthy debate turns into a one-sided screaming match, it's probably safe to cut your losses with this particular person.
"It's OK to agree to disagree on some things," Sassoon said. "But not everyone gets that, and if they make it clear on a first date, get out."